things i am thinking about today: the insidiously fucked-up ways biphobia is hugely internalized in the bisexual community
because most, if not all, of the bisexual people i know (including myself) experience imposter syndrome related to their sexuality at some point. you know how it is - OH NO, I’VE ONLY CHECKED OUT LADIES TODAY, I’M ACTUALLY SECRETLY A LESBIAN, WHAT HAVE I DONE, or I’VE BEEN DATING THIS DUDE FOR A YEAR, I MUST BE STRAIGHT AFTER ALL, and it’s really disturbing every time? like you’re fooling everyone into believing you’re really, genuinely bi but here’s this incontrovertible evidence that you’re not?
and this is obviously a direct offshoot of that lovely ~lying bisexual~ trope; it’s okcupid saying that because most self-id-ing bisexual people only message women or only message men (ignoring, of course, that many bisexual people only use online dating for exclusively same-sex exploits because it’s so much easier to do the other offline); it’s dan savage saying most bi men are lying to their partners; it’s assuming that bi people in longer-term relationships have given up on their sexuality in favor of (partner-oriented)sexuality.
and just. man, biphobia really has done a number on us all.